Ahh, we have stumbled upon the concern of many a drummer. Do practice pads really help you in sensing the feel of an actual drum. The answer is: Yes and No.
There is a brand of Vic Firth pads called the Heavy Hitter's. I despise these with a passion. They have a very poor sound quality, and are, sadly, simulated to the feel of a marching snare, which are Kevlar/DuPont heads cranked to Heaven and above. Crap practice pads for drumset, which are tuned much lower, and not as bouncy. This is a problem with practice pads. They are usually bouncier than actual drums. A single-stroke roll on a pad will be different feeling on a snare and much different on a tom.
With that being said, practice pads are a drummer's best friend. The combination is bitter-sweet mind you, because of statements above. However, they irreplaceable when working on everything but a drum groove. You learn control, technique, rudiments, and everything, all from the comfort of your couch watching TV. They can be taken everywhere. Use the pad to work up your technique with your hands, and then adjust when you play on the kit. It's a change that is a different feel, but with tuning and good control, it can be negated.
I'd first check the tuning of the snare. It might be too low. Tune it up a bit, and make sure the head is tight enough to get a good pop sound. Then, go back and forth from pad to drum when practicing, making sure that you are able to compensate for the shifting feel. After a few weeks, the feel should seem to become one, and you'll be able to shift seamlessly from pad to kit.
Homki890
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